“Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.” – Buddha
“Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” – Jesus
“When we practice loving kindness and compassion we are the first ones to profit.” – Rumi
It is vital that you have clarity about the nature of your true self. A clarity that is distinct from your ego, your model of yourself; a clarity that is founded on something more timeless than a relationship, a job, a sporting achievement, or any other false notion of yourself that you have been clinging to, often desperately. Relationships come and go, jobs come and go, physical capabilities come and go. Like your breathe rises, crests, and falls, so do all these impermanent things. Your true self exists through all these things, before, during, and after. Self-esteem and self-worth should be anchored on your true-self, not on the impermanent scaffolding of life. It may provide pleasure to have a significant other, to receive a promotion at work, or to break a world record. These things may please your ego, that part of you that wants to receive the accolades of the world and avoid its condemnation / judgement. But pleasure and joy are not the same thing. Pleasure held on to becomes addiction. Pleasure as the basis of self-esteem and self-worth creates psychological and spiritual vulnerability. Seek joy, a state of mind that reflects your true mindful self, not pleasure addictions.
In recovery, you become more aware that you are part of something bigger. Your atoms come from the same cosmic event as everyone else. Your atoms have existed previously in the bodies of others and all life, ancient and present. In recovery you become more aware that your true self is something more timeless: love, kindness, forgiveness, patience, and compassion. You accept the impermanent things, your feelings, thoughts, actions, and you grow in the more timeless things: love, kindness, forgiveness, patience, and compassion.
First you practice love, kindness, forgiveness, patience and compassion for yourself. The more you practice, the more you become aware of your capacity for love, kindness, forgiveness, patience, and compassion. The more you connect with your true-self, the stronger you become, and the more you are able to practice love, kindness, forgiveness, patience, and compassion for others.
Your true self is aware of the source you share with others. Your true self is aware that like you, others experience suffering and joy, birth and aging, death and decay. Your true self grows in love, kindness, forgiveness, patience, and compassion for yourself and others. Your self-esteem and self-worth grows in its foundation on the nature of your true self, rather than impermanent pleasures.
Practice love, kindness, forgiveness, patience, and compassion often. Meditate often on the nature of your true self. Base your self-esteem and self-worth on your true self, not the model of yourself your ego has created or the person you think you need to be to achieve the positive judgements and pleasures of and for others. Your true self is timeless and connected to the entire universe, from which it came.
Today I will think and act in alignment with my true self, which is beautiful, just as it is. Today I will mediate on the nature of my true self.